Presence of gadgets leads to absence of life.

Chronically irritable children are often in a state of abnormally high arousal, and may seem “wired and tired.”
Both parents and clinicians may be “barking up the wrong tree.” That is, they’re trying to treat what looks like a textbook case of irritability and apathy, but failing to rule out and address the most common environmental cause of such symptoms—everyday use of electronics. Time and again, I’ve realized that successfully treating a child requires methodically eliminating all electronics use for several weeks—an “electronics fast”—to allow the nervous system to “reset.”

Here’s a look at six physiological mechanisms that explain electronics’ tendency to produce mood disturbance:

1. Screen time disrupts sleep and desynchronizes the body clock.

Because light from screen devices mimics daytime, it suppresses melatonin, a sleep signal released by darkness. Once the body clock is disrupted, all sorts of other unhealthy reactions occur, such as hormonal imbalances and brain inflammation.

2. Screen time desensitizes the brain’s reward system.

Many children are “hooked” on electronics, and in fact gaming releases so much dopamine—the “feel-good” chemical—that on a brain scan it looks the same as cocaine use. Meanwhile, dopamine is also critical for focus and motivation, so needless to say, even small changes in dopamine sensitivity can wreak havoc on how well a child feels and functions.

3. Screen time produces “light-at-night.”

Light-at-night from electronics has been linked to depression and even suicide risk in numerous studies. Sometimes parents are reluctant to restrict electronics use in a child’s bedroom because they worry the child will enter a state of despair—but in fact removing light-at-night is protective.

4. Screen time induces stress reactions.

Both acute stress (fight-or-flight) and chronic stress produce changes in brain chemistry and hormones that can increase irritability. Additionally, both hyper arousal and addiction pathways suppress the brain’s frontal lobe, the area where mood regulation actually takes place.

5. Screen time overloads the sensory system, fractures attention, and depletes mental reserves.

Experts say that what’s often behind explosive and aggressive behavior is poor focus. By depleting mental energy with high visual and cognitive input, screen time contributes to low reserves.

6. Screen-time reduces physical activity levels and exposure to “green time.”

Research shows that time outdoors, especially interacting with nature, can restore attention, lower stress, and reduce aggression. Thus, time spent with electronics reduces exposure to natural mood enhancers.

In today’s world, it may seem crazy to restrict electronics so drastically. But when kids are struggling, we’re not doing them any favors by leaving electronics in place and hoping they can wind down by using electronics in “moderation.” In contrast, by allowing the nervous system to return to a more natural state with a strict fast, we can take the first step in helping a child become calmer, stronger, and happier.

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Recognizing and Respecting Your Partner’s Actions and Boundaries

Being in a romantic relationship has many wonderful moments, and can be very fulfilling. It is not always easy, though, and sometimes requires a great deal of work. It can be difficult to learn to read your partners signals, spoken and unspoken. 

It is essential for a healthy relationship, however. Learning to recognize and respect your partnerís actions and boundaries is one of the most loving things you can do for them. Here is what you need to know about it.

Fight Fair

When you disagree with your partner on any issue, it is far too easy to get into an argument about the matter. Choose to fight fair. Don’t call your partnerís character into question, as this is a major violation of boundaries. Stick to the topic at hand and don’t launch a verbal assault on the other party.

Know When to Offer Advice

Be intuitive to your partner and know when they are seeking advice, or just want a listening ear. Offering advice should only be done when requested and should be given in the best interest of your partner. Be sensitive with your advice and be careful not to infringe on their thought process when they simply need you to listen to them.

Respect Their Need for Alone Time

Even when they are in a relationship with someone they love and admire, the need for alone time is big for some individuals. It doesn’t necessarily mean that the person doesn’t like being around you; it’s simply a need that must be respected. When you feel your partner is craving this kind of alone time, offer to take an evening off from each other in order to recharge.

Know When to Walk Away

When you are in an argument and things are getting heated, know when to back off. If you understand your partner, you will realize when things are getting to where both of you will regret the words that might be said next. If your partner walks away or says the conversation is over, choose to respectfully take a break.

Be a Good Student of Body Language

There is no better way to learn your partner’s actions and boundaries than to become an observant student of their body language. Take note of how they act when they are pleased with the situation, and when they are not. Know what signals to watch out for that would indicate they feel you have crossed the line. This will help you know how to fully support them.

Respect Their Words

No means no, and all other words have their own meaning too. When your partner has said something to you, respect it. Never try to push your own agenda in order to get your way. This will only damage the relationship and cause your partner to lose respect for you. Respect your partnerís words in the same way you expect your words to be respected.

Relationships can be tricky things. There seem to be many rules to follow, and these rules can change from one day to the next. One thing that never changes, though, is the need that every human has to have their actions and boundaries respected by their partner. Learn how to do this, and to recognize them even before being said. This will show your partner you care and will make for a healthy relationship that lasts many years.

TRY IT OUT AND YOU CAN REACH ME FOR MORE DISCUSSIONS ON THIS. I AM SURE WE ALL NEED THIS.

TEACHING PARENTS ABOUT PARENTING.

TEACHING PARENTS ABOUT PARENTING.

There is nothing in the world I feel more passionately about, than children, their education and parenting.

These by far have been my most meaningful endeavors. Having worked in the area of early childhood education for more than two decades, I have embraced the nuances of the field and yet, I discover something new each day!

For a long time now, my colleagues, family, and friends have been encouraging me to share my experiences, thoughts and work with the world, and so I decided to let my voice find a medium through this Article. It is not that I have not committed mistakes in my parenting, I did. Parenting has actually brought out the most intense emotions in me. I do not think anything in this world comes close to changing us as a person or our lives, as much as having children. My work is part of a tradition in psychology that shows the power of people beliefs. These may be beliefs we are aware or unaware of, but they unequivocally affect what we want and whether we succeed in achieving our goals. In this article, you will learn how a simple belief about yourself, guides a large part of your life.You will understand your mate, your boss, friends, and your children. You will see how to unleash your potential and your child’s too. Parenting is never about any kind of strategy but it is our philosophy of life in general. It is not about our children but it is

about us becoming more aware, mindful, sensitive and conscious human beings. I really believe that parenting hardly comes naturally to anybody. There are some parents seen, to be made for parenting- their patience, calmness and gentle presence sometimes is beyond belief. For the rest of us, we have to develop these skills and way of being through a lot of conscious effort. Therefore, I do believe, strongly, that parenting has to be inside out process. As parents, we are required to have the belief that we have to first work on ourselves. Whatever issues we might face with children, the question is not what the child needs to do at that point in time, but what we as parents need to reflect on or do .In case, if you are facing a difficulty with your child, simply ask yourself a few questions. How do I feel about it? How is that impacting my child? Is it my need or my child’s? What am I supposed to do as a parent? Now answer them with great transparency and you will exactly know what you are supposed to do.

Another fact about the children is that whatever we focus on, it grows in them. As a parent, if I focus on the child’s weaknesses, it is apparent that those weaknesses will grow. Therefore, it’s always good to work on the strengths of a child in order to initiate growth in that area in particular. Most commonly, this goes very much against the 

common parenting practice- the focus is more on irresponsible lifestyle and weak areas, hence we end up lecturing them, criticizing them for the wrong choices. The more we see the grey areas, the more we crank them up with our negativity. The need, therefore, is to accept children as they are and focus entirely on what they can actually

 do and are capable of. Definitely, children will do well if they are assured of their capabilities.

It is so obvious after seeing a little baby trying to walk. The baby takes small steps forward, looks at his caregivers 

with a beautiful smile, takes another step and then, maybe, falls down. Now imagine, if this baby is continuously guided, counseled, trained and also compared with other children who could walk, then what? I am sure the children lose interest in whatever they are doing. The child might give up and not want to put in efforts again. 

Not only this, we might end up thinking and tell that the child is lazy, or maybe doesn’t want to walk or maybe is tired. Sounds little weird isn’t it? I think it is the self-doubt, that is now stopping the child from keeping pace with

what the child was doing previously. Somehow, I have always been a little confused by a lot of parenting literature out there which aims at categorizing parents into pigeon holes on the basis of parenting tiles and as a result, we hear a lot about different styles of parenting: Permissive, laissez-faire, drill sergeant, helicopter, tiger mum, authoritarian,

authoritative, democratic etc. I have never known which style I fit into! Instead, I am really contented with my own style of parenting, with all its imperfections. It has been strangely interesting to give myself permission to be imperfect. There is no right or wrong way of parenting. If each child is wired and inspired differently, then each 

parent is wired and inspired differently too.

This article is not about making you a perfect parent so that you can have the perfect kids. This is a small effort that will make you feel that you have got a companion for you to reflect, introspect and dive deep to connect to the immense wealth of wisdom that is already there.

Always remember parenting is not about bringing up children. It is about growing up

and transforming, ourselves to be a better human being. It is not about being there FOR

the children but it is exclusively about being there WITH the children.

I see so many examples in my daily schedule, where we as parents keep reminding ourselves that we are here for our children and as a consequence, we really skip being with them.

 It was a great day at my school and It was the ideal opportunity for youngsters to leave for home. A mother, who had come to get her girl, came to me with her little girl and asked, “What influences you to work with kids, what influences you ‘to talk’ to them”. I was going to state my standard answer, “Since I cherish them”.

However abruptly the girl pulled her mom’s dress and stated, “Mamma lets go”. The woman swung to her tyke and in an abrupt voice condemned her, “wouldn’t you be able to see I am conversing with ma’am, how frequently have I told you not to hinder me when I am conversing with anybody, awful behavior”. 

It was at that exact second that I understood that it was not ‘love’ that influenced us to work with kids, but rather it was Regard. On the off chance that I was in the mother’s place, I would have reacted with, -“Indeed, dear, you should be ravenous, I will hustle just a bit with your ma’am” or something comparative.

I would have regarded the youngster needs. Similarly, as I might want others to regard my requirements. Do you mind if a youngster irritates you when you are accomplishing something, yet in the meantime you discover it is flawlessly alright that you burst in when the child is accomplishing something? Do you frequently feel that it is imperative that we control kids, yet it isn’t worthy when youngsters endeavor to control our circumstance? Some places, we are working on a same platform while other some places we think that we are up here and our kids are down there. That is the reason we believe that they should be controlled, told, chastened, and rebuffed.

In some places, we think we are predominant; we know increasingly and subsequently well of the need to ‘drive them’. Yet, what might happen in the event that we think about them as equivalents. What will happen in the event that we approached them with deference, worked with them as though they are as equivalent to us? What are we going to get if we somehow happened to give regard?

However, some places whereby the minute I regarded to the child, the child feels regarded. A kid who feels regarded is considerably more open to tuning in, to comprehend, to take after (the correct things), to participate and to improve things. Envision how it might be in a place where we are not regarded when contrasted with a place where we seem to be? 

Clearly, the youngster will think, feel and act better. Also, we will be in an ideal situation as well! In the event that you lead through dread you will have little regard; however, in the event that you lead through

regard, you will have little to fear.

YOU AND YOUR CHILD

A common conversation between a parent and a child, when the child returns from the school is usually along these lines :

Parent : “How was your day?”

Child : “Good”

Parent : “What did you do today?  “

Child : “Nothing”

Parent : “Why?”

The Child is speechless.

Parent : “Ok Tell me how was your test?”

Child : “Went off good”

Parent : “How much do you think you will score?”

Child : “Don’t know”. And leaves.

How many of us can relate to this sequence of event ; most of us !

‘Learning’ to us, in a way is defined as something that can be measured.

The problem is that it is way too hard to state exactly “What learning is”? Or “how it happens”?

Learning as a psychological activity is something truly difficult to get a handle on. We know very little about the process. There are a lot of theories, but none of them have stood the test of time and few are based on hard data or hypotheses that are supportable.

Most educators know this fact. In order to cover up for this and to make up for the inadequacy in confronting a process that we don’t really comprehend, we do what modern man always does.

WE LABEL SOMETHING (“LEARNING”) AND “MEASURE” IT.

Then we are comfortable, because at least then we have the feeling that we have a grasp on the problem. We don’t really follow the process, but in lieu of a profound understanding of what’s going on, we find something and say, “Let’s declare this to be learning, by consensus. Then we can measure it and put it out of our minds”.

Now, this is exactly what the ENTIRE Educational system the world over has been doing: Quantify learning by breaking it up into measurable pieces – courses, hours, tests and grades.

One of the best stories about this is told by Winston Churchill, concerning his own childhood.

He was a total failure in school. To get into an exclusive high school, he had to go through the formality of an entrance exam. Of course, he knew (as did everybody else) that it made no difference, since he’d end up being accepted anyway, as one of the direct descendants of the duke of Marlborough. But there he was, faced with an entrance exam in Greek and Latin. He looked at the page for an hour and finally handed in an empty paper with his signature on it and a big smudge of ink. They gave upon him entirely and placed him in the dummies class, which learned ENGLISH. So, it happened that Winston Churchill opened his entire high school studying English literature, whereas all the successful “Cultured” people learned   Greek and Latin. It hardly needs a mention that Churchill ended up being one of the finest stylists in the English language in the twentieth century.

The story above mentions that the restraints on the freedom of movement, thought control, obedience and punishment for disobedience, all cannot stop human brain to excel. The system should not focus on outcomes but should give space to children and their learning. If they spend time thinking and learning without being even bothered of the outcome, they surely will be able to think better in their life ahead. Learning will then be taking place and there will hardly be any need to measure it. A perfect blend of environment and freedom works.

Environment that we create for children affects their genes.

For this biological information not to be disturbing, we may need to understand how we can be in charge of own lives in this mechanistic view. Biology makes how we react to our mistakes the only freewill available. All our behaviours are the result of what our brain learned from our environment, so even our attempts at change are programed. We need to be patient as we make even the smallest improvement to our responses to mistakes.

This all makes it crucial that we understand that our thinking is an environment. It is something we can change by noticing-critical thinking-when our thinking isn’t effective. Without critical thinking we are stuck with the other effects of our environment, and all of us have been given limitations by things that went wrong in our environment. If we can’t change our behaviours over time, with patience, it is disturbing that we are too much like a machine.

So the time has Come  now to give space and time to our children to discover themselves .

Are nursery admissions scary?

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It is always believed that underlying every behaviour, is a POSITIVE INTENTION. This applies even to seemingly bad or non-productive behaviours (as per the mental state at that point in time of a person). What is important here is to uncover the positive intent, the purpose, of this behaviour, as there is always a reason. Once the purpose is established we can teach or help the person, or our own neurology in this instance, find healthier and more ecological ways to satisfy our intention.

The Intention here is to get the child admitted to a good school and give the child the best education. Isn’t it?

But look at the kind of mental states we find ourselves in, based on which we behave in a certain way, which can be productive or destructive. The question here is to ask yourself, is it really about the admissions that we as parents worry? Or it is more about our own mental states based on perspectives, beliefs, presuppositions?

Can we look at and start working on our own neurology rather working on external data that we collect throughout. Eg:

  1. Admission to grade NUR is very tough.
  2. Nur admission is the only way to get into the mainstream.
  3. Admission in Grade 1 is impossible.
  4. The school with Good name and fame is worth experiencing.
  5. Air-conditioned schools are upgraded schools
  6. The schools using smart boards are necessarily better than non-tech schools. Etc.

We perceive the world through our five senses –the external territory. We then take this external phenomenon and make an internal representation of it –the map. This external map we create of the world outside is influenced by our perceptions, our beliefs, and values. It follows then that what is outside can never be, the exact same as what we create inside our brain. Furthermore, each person, according to his or her own belief system, will create a different map of this same world that we perceive. In other words, we each have our individual map of the world and in order to communicate effectively and easily, it is important to understand the internal reality. In this instance, I have tried to convey that we need to create a better state of mind in order to understand that

MAP IS NOT ALWAYS THE TERRITORY.

NUR ADMISSIONS NOT NECESSARILY BE THE MOST TEDIOUS.

Change yourself, change your states, so that you collect the data that helps you keep calm and achieve what you want, without feeling toxic but full of wisdom. The CHANGE that will be witnessed NOW is the change that matters.

Sonal Ahuja

Parents should always be there for any challenge that a child faces but not #kikiChallenge

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Parents should always be there for any challenge that a child faces but not #kikiChallenge

You must have seen Young Social Media Enthusiasts performing this #kikichallenge on a song “Kiki do you love me”. I have written this piece as an educator and a parent of 2 youngsters myself. My daughter is studying in college and my son is in Sr. Secondary. Before putting down my views on the same it is necessary for me to tell you what this challenge is all about, so in this challenge, a person is required to dance along with a moving car dancing on Kiki do you love me the song and jump right back into the car.

Canadian Rapper Drakes song which is actually “In My Feelings” has this line Kiki Do You Love Me which was topping the charts and was played like a normal chartbuster till the time Shiggy a famous comedian decided to upload this funny clip of his on Instagram where he was dancing along with a moving car on a busy road. Later Shiggy’s friend Odell Beckham Jr who is a footballer also recorded the same kind of video and the world went crazy for it.

My reflection to this challenge is whether somebody named Kiki loves your child or not I am sure as a parent that you surely do feel for your child and you should not allow your child to get into this kind of challenge where he/she can hurt themselves. I am saying this because after a lot of research on the internet I have found youngsters getting hurt hitting the potholes, banging their head on poles and one instance girls bag gets snatched while doing this challenge.

We as parents should always standby our child in each and every challenge they face but unnecessarily be inviting trouble is not a good thing, I advise all the parents to first not give car keys to the youngster till the time he/she is eligible for it and talk to them about this challenge. Try and explain that someone can get hurt attempting this challenge or you yourself can land-up in big trouble doing this challenge as Delhi Police has issued a tweet stating: “Dance on the floors, not on the roads! #KikiChallenge is not worth the fun.#InMyFeelings Keep #Delhi roads safe for all”. Similarly, Mumbai, Punjab, UP and almost all the states have issued a warning for this challenge.

For youngsters, I should say this let’s not express our feelings doing these challenges, take up real challenges in life and make a difference in the society by doing something for the society. Please try and follow the footsteps of some of the great thinkers of the world like Elon Musk or Malala Yusufzai or Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam or Virat Kohli to name a few whom you can look up to. “Be the difference to make the difference”

Drive Technology, Don’t Get Driven by it- an Expert’s Opinion!

As an educator and a guide to parents for years, one significant concern that has risen over the last ten years is the addiction to technology- mobiles, tablets, virtual games, social media challenges and much more.

Every time I get a chance to interact with parents or teachers, the emergence of this discussion seems inevitable. According to my viewpoint, it is extremely crucial for parents to understand the repercussions of it much before the children- because ultimately, children are a reflection of what they see.

It is undeniably true that technology or robots have reduced human efforts and has made life much easier. However, the problem arises when the technology starts driving us and not vice-versa.

Here are a few things that must be taken into consideration-

ROBOTS AFFECT EMOTIONAL CONNECTS

The most commonly heard complaint from parents is that their children do not spend enough time with them because of their constant engagement with their mobile phones and other electronic gadgets. This ends up in lack of effective communication between parents and children which ultimately results is affected emotional relationships which leave people disheartened and sometimes drives them into depression as well.

Setting some rules in your household (for example, no mobile phones should be allowed on the dining table, while studying or talking to the parent) are essential in order to ensure stable emotional relationships.

WHAT ABOUT THE NECESSARY PHYSICAL WORKOUT?

According to doctors and other specialists, a person (child or adult) must engage in moderate or vigorous physical activities for 60 minutes a day. With the technological advancement, things have tended to reach doorsteps at the click of a finger and therefore, have made the young generation lazy and lethargic.

Parents must encourage children to explore the surroundings or indulge them in physical activities in order to ensure physical and mental well-being.

THERE’S JUST ONE WAY TO DEVELOP THE BRAIN- USE IT

Majority of the brain development happens in the early childhood days and every individual continues to evolve depending upon the experiences, parent rearing styles, educational institutions and peer groups. Experts have assured that there’s just one way to ensure brain development- use it!

With excessive exposure to robots and the virtual world, the use of brain will not be much, therefore, the neural connection will not form at the rate that a human brain should do- this harms the neurological development.

LOOK UP- LOOK BEYOND THE SCREENS

We live in a world that is beautiful and exquisite in every sense. Technology, to some extent, has created the mental state called boredom. It has fed children and adults with so much that in its absence; they feel bored and subsequently become unaware of their surroundings, which are completely full of new adventures each day. We are unaware of those because as we try to explore something we haven’t come across before, we have technology at our dispersal to express and overcome boredom.

We are now living in a world that is increasingly being designed to depress us, where love is being subjected to conditions, where people are no longer living their version of themselves, where motivation fails to last very long, where people have put up their lives online and they no longer crave for words and depth, desires and fears. It’s extremely important to ensure that we drive and guide technology and not get driven by it!

3 Reasons Why You Must Read ‘OVERCOMING PARENTING MYTHS’

When you search for the best parenting books on the internet, there is a storm of them with each book claiming to make you a better parent, a better confidant, a better teacher.

With passing time and changing beliefs, parenting has taken a new dimension altogether. The way to deal with kids has tremendously changed over the years. The times in which we grew up as children were in contrast to those prevailing now.

Having worked as a learning evangelist and trainer for more than two decades, I have personally observed this drastic transformation and have dealt with nuances of it with thousands of children, teachers, and parents.

‘Overcoming Parenting Myths’ is a reflection of my journey as a parent, teacher, trainer and most importantly, a learner. It is an effort to offer practical solutions to the lingering questions by parents and educators for years in a refreshing way. In this book, I have tried to put forth suggestions that are simple and easy to follow.

But why do parents and educators have to read this book when there are so many other options available? I have curated three simple reasons-

IT IS BASED ON THE POWER OF BELIEFS

The power of beliefs is an incredible concept that has moved mountains and transformed the lives of many. It is one of the most overlooked superpowers in the world. ‘Overcoming Parenting Myths’ allows you to reflect on and challenge your power of beliefs and how it can help you be better parents, educators who can raise perseverant, confident, hopeful and resilient children- children, who are just not their kids but also the next generation.

IT MAKES YOU REFLECT, INTROSPECT AND RESPECT

In order to be able to give better lives to children, we need to first put on our oxygen masks. Usually, parents and teachers overlook their needs and aspirations as a part of the upbringing process. However, that’s not how the idea of parenting works. As per my vision and experience, parenting or raising children is about reflecting on your own actions, introspecting your own beliefs and respecting the child’s needs.

IT TEACHES YOU TO BE NOT FOR CHILDREN, BUT WITH CHILDREN

A child does not need ‘only love’ to be able to feel safe and protected. What children nowadays demand is uninterrupted attention and assurance of being taken care of.

‘Overcoming Parenting Myths’ talks about how you need not be for your children and rather influence your actions in a way that you tend to be with your children.

I’m sure that the parents and educators will find the book as a ready reckoner and useful referral to realign their views and approaches to child rearing and parenting.

– SONAL AHUJA

 

Encouraging the Art of Self-Directed Learning in Kids

“I never teach my pupils, I only provide the conditions in which they can learn”

The aforementioned quote by Sir Albert Einstein is one of my favorites!

As a learning evangelist, I always aspire to cultivate curiosity and independence in children because I firmly believe that it’s the first step for them to be self-directed learners. Children, during their early years of education, must be introduced to situations where they explore how to use resources to find answers to questions or to learn skills to solve problems.

Self-directed learners are not dependent on adults to help them complete tasks or projects. However, the assistance at certain levels is necessary.

Self-directed learning is not a trait that some children are born with and others aren’t; it is a skill that can be taught and nurtured in all children from a young age.

To experiment the same, we conducted an activity- SWAYAM at Sri Ram Foundation School in East Delhi.

We asked the students to create a room for themselves out of waste material- an effort they must consider being their dream project with a realistic deadline. From planning, delegating, basic structures, innovations to any kind of initiative, we gave children absolute independence to be able to curate their imaginations!

The best part of the activity was that it was completely taken up by the little ones, with assistance from our team only when requested.

The results have been astounding! It was an absolute delight to watch children exploring their potentials, putting in efforts to solve problems, creating opportunities for innovation and learning meaningfully with no stress through play.

Here’s why self-directed learning should be encouraged across the entire education sector, especially during the pre-school era-

IT IGNITES SELF-CONFIDENCE, INITIATIVE, PERSEVERANCE, AND SATISFACTION

When children are given control of a situation, they are likely to take up charge and create their own paths, thus inculcating leadership qualities and willingness to work in a team in them.

Self-directed learning evidently enhances a child’s ability to make self-affirming choices. The more we allow children to make their own decisions–with analyzing their own ideas, feelings, wants and needs and weighing them against available options, the more likely they are to grow into mature, sensible, productive and compassionate adults.

NO COMPETITION, BUT COLLABORATION

Children who are taught in their early years through self-directed learning are happier and more successful as they are not bound to be intellectually superior to others and negatively competitive. Their ability to grab hold of their ideas is mutually respected.

They are also better listeners and learners as they understand the concepts of cooperation and adorning other’s ideas at a tender age. Self- directed learning also helps the mind to be open and inquisitive.

EXPERIENTIAL LEARNING IS ALWAYS MORE MEANINGFUL

A pre-defined curriculum, a standard set of rules, fixed timetables and the inability to consider individual interest can never allow an individual to be able to move towards self-directed learning.

It is always better to actually build and sail a boat rather than merely read about how others have done so, or by surveying a plot of the ground rather than simply calculating the area of a polygon presented on a worksheet. During practical application of these concepts, a child is likely to make mistakes and learn from them!

HAPPINESS BREEDS MORE HAPPINESS

With no impositions, children become free to create, discuss, negotiate, design, and explore to serve their goals and values.

People who pursued self-directed learning in their early years of education are likely to work collaboratively and empower others rather than seek power over others. People who understand the relevance of making thoughtful choices are more likely to support self-direction in others too.

I, therefore, wish to encourage all the parents, teachers and children to take up charge of their situations and promote self-directed learning in every possible way!

Learning How to Learn

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From where does education begin for a child?

As per my understanding as an educator and as a parent, real education begins before a person learns to speak and continues throughout their entire life.

Children learn through their surroundings and all their future success, happiness and forthcomings depend on their ability to learn from these surroundings.

We all have significantly observed that this ability is stronger in infants than adults. As we grow up and start dwelling ourselves into the prevailing education system, we start adopting clichéd methods of learning and ultimately what we gain is not wisdom but just information- an information that doesn’t stay with us and withers away in no time.

It’s crucial to understand that learning is the key to a child’s future. But did you know there are tricks to learn?

Have you ever thought of teaching them those tricks, those simple methods that can make learning a joyful experience for your child?

House of Learning has exclusively designed programs that make children and adults undergo the process of learning in the most systematic and organized manner.

Listed are a few pointers that we work on-

MAKING YOUR CHILD WANT TO LEARN

Where there’s a will, there’s a way.

Most of the times, the concepts, and learning structures are designed in a way that the learner starts finding ways to escape studying. The idea is to create the want in a learner to know and to gain knowledge.

If your child would want to learn something, they’ll do it in every possible way. We must make them believe that there’s no end to the plethora of knowledge in this world and thinking you know it all wouldn’t work.

The idea is to drive the urge for knowledge in them- learning will become fun in itself!

THE ART OF QUESTIONING

Learning is not only reading about anything and grabbing information. It is actually about studying and asking a lot of questions.

We must liberate the child to be open to clearing all their doubts while they learn- this will help them explore and discover more and more.

The problem that prevails is that people are not aware of the right way to study and therefore learning becomes difficult for them.

IT’S NOT ABOUT PASSING EXAMS

Are you telling your child to learn from a textbook because he/she has a test to pass?

The race to finish curriculums, score exceptionally great and be the topper of the class leads to practices like rot learning and muddling information.

Every child has a pace with which he/she learns- but the whole rat race finishes their thirst for knowledge and leaves them helpless.

HOW IS YOUR CHILD ACTUALLY LEARNING?

Someone has rightly said, if you’re not willing to learn, no one can help you. If you are determined to learn, no one can stop you.

It’s imperative to acknowledge that how we learn is a much more important question than why we learn.

There are some tricks and techniques that educators have to make learning an interesting endeavor for a child. Overcoming barriers that disrupt the learning process is an extremely important step.

The solution is to identify them. We have to follow the right process to learn anything.

House of Learning aspires to bestow the students and educators (be it parents or teachers) the gift of learning, the gift of wisdom!