Periods Aren’t Just About Bleeding Females. Here’s What We Actually Need To Talk About!

Whether it is about a 21-year-old woman dying in Nepal after she was forced to live in a hut due to the fact she was menstruating or about the little girl in Tamil Nadu who committed suicide after being reportedly shamed by her teacher for staining her clothes with menstrual blood in front of her class- menstruation continues to prevail as a curse to women!

Interestingly, many people from different walks of lives have talked openly about it in order to raise awareness and bust the myths and taboos revolving around it.

Recently, another feather added to this cap was the #PadmanChallenge- a marketing strategy used by the Padman Film’s Team in order to promote their film.

Before I raise my point here, I wish to state that I am not protesting against the movie. In fact, the portrayal of the real-life Pad Man and entrepreneur Arunachalam Muruganantham was a much-needed effort.

All I wish to bring forth are the much more important aspects of menstruation that the society as a whole needs to focus on!

NOT EVERYONE USES SANITARY PADS

Did you know, of the 355 million menstruating women in India, only 12 percent use sanitary pads?

The rest switch to unhygienic alternatives such as clothes, ashes, and husk, thereby welcoming severe reproductive health problems.

Celebrities are highly influential people with massive reach and their practices are followed religiously. Maybe educating why holding a pad in hand is okay and distributing them to girls and women across the country would have been a much better alternative than just posing with them.

Educating the child about their use and benefits is what schools, colleges, and communities must encourage.

IT’S OKAY TO TALK OPENLY ABOUT THEIR BODIES!

Majority of women do not find themselves in a comfort zone when it comes to discussing their bodies and problems associated with it openly. How do we expect them to take care of hygiene and prevention of infections during periods?

It’s crucial to teach boys and girls in the early years of education itself how natural this phenomenon is and it’s perfectly normal and not shameful to discuss these issues openly!

WHAT ABOUT THE DISGUST THEY FACE?

A majority of girls, especially in rural areas do not attend schools while they’re menstruating because of the flak they draw from people around in case of an unlikely incident.

The tradition of disallowing them to enter religious places and kitchens is what makes the foundations of these myths even stronger!

PADS- BUT OF WHAT KIND?

Did you know, a woman on an average sheds 125 kilos of menstrual blood in all the years and these plastic pads take 500-800 years to recycle?

Can you even imagine the levels of environmental damage we’re causing because of it?

Use of alternatives like biodegradable pads, menstrual cups, cloth pads etc. needs to reach out to masses!

There’s much more to periods than just bleeding and posing. Holding a pad in hand doesn’t save women from all the health hazards, social stigmas, and humiliation.

Sonal Ahuja

Founder (House of learning)

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Shri Ram Foundation Pre school’s vision.

We always felt that Shri Ram Foundation Pre School was the best place to develop each child’s unique potential to the fullest.  The question is, how does this beautiful concept relate to setting up a school? It turns out that, when you think of the notion of developing each child’s unique destiny, you realize that it connects directly to the great debate of Nature vs. nurture. And the fact is that, at least in this juncture in human history, no one has an answer to the question of which of these is the determining factor, or the most important factor, or what relative weight can be given to each one. Both factors seem to play a role. So, for us, the question became, how does the school environment relate to each of these two factors, assuming that they both play a role? How does the school environment help each child to realize their own destiny, whether you consider that destiny to be determined by Nature or by nurture?

Let’s consider Nature first. The argument is that a child’s potential and capabilities are largely determined by his/her genetic makeup. It’s something inherent in the child from birth. The idea is that each child is born with a certain innate configuration that gets actuated as the child matures into adulthood – like hair color or physical build. To the extent that this is true, then, the way to maximize a child’s ability to realize his/her own destiny is to let Nature take its course! It seems pretty obvious once you focus on what it means. If there’s a component of your destiny that’s inherent, the best way to assure that it will be realized is to let Nature do its thing undisturbed. That should happen without barriers, and with the patience necessary to let the natural processes unfold.

There’s a beautiful poem that came to my attention from Mary Oliver’s book Dreamwork that I would like to cite in this connection. It focuses on the damage that intervention can do to the natural unfolding. It’s called “The Journey”:

 

One day you finally knew

what you had to do, and began,

though the voices around you

kept shouting

their bad advice –

though the whole house

began to tremble

and you felt the old tug

at your ankles.

“Mend my life!”

each voice cried.

But you didn’t stop.

You knew what you had to do,

though the wind pried

with its stiff fingers

at the very foundations –

though their melancholy

was terrible.

It was already late

enough, and a wild night,

and the road full of fallen

branches and stones.

But little by little,

as you left their voices behind,

the stars began to burn

through the sheets of clouds,

and there was a new voice,

which you slowly

recognized as your own,

that kept you company

as you strode deeper and deeper

into the world,

determined to do

the only thing you could do –

determined to save

the only life you could save.

We invite you to Shri Ram Foundation PreSchool, to witness the journey of children already in our settings and be a part of the family. New batches are forming and are waiting with arms open to facilitate our lovely children.

See you soon

 

Shri Ram Foundation Pre School

 

ARE WE ON A RIGHT PATH OF FACILITATING CHILDREN???

When you see a insect and say, “Yuck!”
What does your child say? “Yuck”
Lesson to child: worms are yucky and possibly scary also. Without realizing we close a big learning opportunity for the child: To know more about worms, about nature and food cycle, about aerodynamics or movement, about life.
When you see a flower and say, ‘Beautiful”. What does your child say? “Beautiful” (Even if the child is too small to speak, she appreciates beauty). Lesson to child: Flowers are beautiful, something to appreciate. Maybe without  realizing we have opened one learning opportunity for the child to know more about flowers, designs, nature and to appreciate good things in life.

Children see us, observe our behavior, listen to our words carefully and feel our  feelings. How the adults approach a learning situation, the child learns to approach the same way. If we want our children to be curious, inquisitive, exploratory,
inquiring, we need to see how we approach things in our life.

Many children detest writing. During first few years of child’s life listening and talking is the basic form of communication, while the child sees reading equally important to survive – from signboards to food packets to stories for entertainment. But the child is introduced to writing through writing ABC – which has no connection with child’s life. What motivation will a child have in writing one page of only A’s or B’s. On top of that they are supposed to write the alphabets correctly and neatly. How artificial, uninteresting and laboring can learning made to be?

The moment we let the child write his or her name, family members name, his  wish-list of shopping items, what the child wants to eat, what the child wants to play and so on the motivation is intrinsic, the learning natural. 

Observe – question – investigate and you can learn the science taught in first eight years at home through curiosity and fascination. Somewhere in the process of packaging it in a tin we have made learning to be artificial, something that ‘has’ to be done, something that requires extra effort!

No wonder to many it tastes bland - something that requires the external push and pull of a teacher and marks. But the moment we stop teaching, rather we explore learning with our child, we learn together - by discovering, by doing, applying, by imagining - all from our day to day life. Learning is the most natural thing for a child to do. 

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As far as learning and teaching are concerned , I have always observed children to be able to learn only what they were EAGER to learn- What they set out to learn on their own initiative, what they insisted on learning and what they were ready to work hard at. I felt that the only learning that ever counts in life happens when the learner has thrown himself into the subject on his own, without coaxing, or bribing , or pressure. And I was pretty sure that teachers working with such eager, determined, persistent students would experience unusual satisfaction. In fact, i always thought that such an environment would be a paradise for students and teachers alike.

The first phrase that pops into everyone’s mind is: “We go to Schools to learn“.

Then why don’t children learn more in schools today? Why all the complaints, why the seemingly never -ending struggle and expense just to tread water, let alone to progress? The answer is embarrassingly simple. Schools today are institutions in which “learning” is taken a mean “being taught”. You want children to learn ? Teach them ! You want children to learn more? Teach them more ! And more !Work them harder. Drill them longer.

But Learning is a process you do, not a process that is done to you !

Its Completely Basic……..

 

SONAL AHUJA

 

 

 

 

Your being different brings a different day for you, Try today!

Freedom is the key to live happily..
Freedom is the key to live happily..

Give them freedom ,as freedom is better than control. I have smiled more, giggled more and laughed till belly aches simply because I have let children drive themselves. I have not been their guardian, rather guardian of their freedom.
Its magical when you believe in them, when you learn how to be not FOR them but WITH them. Suddenly emotions, thoughts, knowledge, learning etc all become just reasons to enjoy this togetherness.
Children can be so observant that they will notice every minute detail. Children can be so lost in their fantasies that they ignore everything else. Children can be so goal oriented that they will try all possible ethical and unethical means to achieve it. Children can be so immersed in the process that they give a damn about the outcome. Any which way, they have taught that life is not about A constant, A theory, A structure, A system, A result.

Life is much more than that, just try to be different and feel the change.

 

SONAL AHUJA