It’s been long and I have been watching my own practices. you know the inquiries that I go over are, why do I need to work when the entire world is at the stop the world state? what is making me suspect as much ?  Can’t I offer myself some BREAK TIME?

The bizarreness now- the inquiries are mine yet the appropriate responses that I get are from the outside world. I mean is this what our life is?

Isn’t it that we have acknowledged today where we were going and what we set out on from quite a while ago. It’s a time of extraordinary Self- Reflection. The meaning of life to me is consistently about being cheerful and battled all through yet the inquiry is would we say we are upbeat today?

Unexpected break in the progression of cash that we had has impacted a large number of us such that we never anticipated. Is that we all are living on the standard of earn and consume?

Take a gander at the business visionaries , work laborers, school pioneers, instructors , every one of them are confronting a Pandemic , one due to COVID and two because of absence of cash and buying power.

My point is to pass on that something that is going on in us has solutions additionally inside us. isn’t it?

Our concerns , our inquiries all can be addressed just by looking inside. Posing right inquiries to self and thus letting the correct synthetic chemicals discharge in our mind. The right chemicals whenever discharged all together can take us to the most sane decisions that we are going to take forever.

Emotional well-being was consistently a matter of concern and now it has been, one of the most highlighted issue in the world.

Imagine a scenario where this isn’t dealt with great care and wisdom.

Imagine a scenario where we continue posing incorrectly inquiries to ourselves and thus trouble our nervous system science.

It will be extraordinary, If we can,  it truly helps since we realize that “neurons that fire together wire together.”

Assist yourself with wiring appropriately to let the correct synthetic compounds stream inside you. Riveting your focus outside of you will continually carry a race to your mind that you will always be unable to deal with and will just wind up taking incorrect decisions.


  • Don’t pay individuals as you don’t get paid
  • Lay offs is the best way to sustain.
  • Close it to close the concerns
  • Drink more to overlook stresses
  • Smoking is a great idea to unwind

Check what stories are you telling yourself? Are these yours or the ones you are hearing from the outside world? THE CHOICE IS YOURS TO FIRE RIGHT NEURONS TO HAVE THE MOST RESOURCEFUL WIRING.

You Love to learn or learn to reach somewhere, What’s your style ?

A common conversation between a parent and a child, when the child returns from the school is usually along these lines :

Parent : “How was your day?”

Child : “Good”

Parent : “What did you do today?  “

Child : “Nothing”

Parent : “Why?”

The Child is speechless.

Parent : “Ok Tell me how was your test?”

Child : “Went off good”

Parent : “How much do you think you will score?”

Child : “Don’t know”. And leaves.

How many of us can relate to this sequence of event ; most of us !

‘Learning’ to us, in a way is defined as something that can be measured.

The problem is that it is way too hard to state exactly “What learning is”? Or “how it happens”?

Learning as a psychological activity is something truly difficult to get a handle on. We know very little about the process. There are a lot of theories, but none of them have stood the test of time and few are based on hard data or hypotheses that are supportable.

Most educators know this fact. In order to cover up for this and to make up for the inadequacy in confronting a process that we don’t really comprehend, we do what modern man always does.


Then we are comfortable, because at least then we have the feeling that we have a grasp on the problem. We don’t really follow the process, but in lieu of a profound understanding of what’s going on, we find something and say, “Let’s declare this to be learning, by consensus. Then we can measure it and put it out of our minds”.

Now, this is exactly what the ENTIRE Educational system the world over has been doing: Quantify learning by breaking it up into measurable pieces – courses, hours, tests and grades.

One of the best stories about this is told by Winston Churchill, concerning his own childhood.

He was a total failure in school. To get into an exclusive high school, he had to go through the formality of an entrance exam. Of course, he knew (as did everybody else) that it made no difference, since he’d end up being accepted anyway, as one of the direct descendants of the duke of Marlborough. But there he was, faced with an entrance exam in Greek and Latin. He looked at the page for an hour and finally handed in an empty paper with his signature on it and a big smudge of ink. They gave upon him entirely and placed him in the dummies class, which learned ENGLISH. So, it happened that Winston Churchill opened his entire high school studying English literature, whereas all the successful “Cultured” people learned   Greek and Latin. It hardly needs a mention that Churchill ended up being one of the finest stylists in the English language in the twentieth century.

The story above mentions that the restraints on the freedom of movement, thought control, obedience and punishment for disobedience, all cannot stop human brain to excel. The system should not focus on outcomes but should give space to children and their learning. If they spend time thinking and learning without being even bothered of the outcome, they surely will be able to think better in their life ahead. Learning will then be taking place and there will hardly be any need to measure it. A perfect blend of environment and freedom works.

Environment that we create for children affects their genes.

For this biological information not to be disturbing, we may need to understand how we can be in charge of own lives in this mechanistic view. Biology makes how we react to our mistakes the only freewill available. All our behaviours are the result of what our brain learned from our environment, so even our attempts at change are programed. We need to be patient as we make even the smallest improvement to our responses to mistakes.

This all makes it crucial that we understand that our thinking is an environment. It is something we can change by noticing-critical thinking-when our thinking isn’t effective. Without critical thinking we are stuck with the other effects of our environment, and all of us have been given limitations by things that went wrong in our environment. If we can’t change our behaviours over time, with patience, it is disturbing that we are too much like a machine.

Don’t you think the time has come, we should give space and time to our children to discover themselves?  

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Top 10 Ways to Develop Self-Awareness

Private consultations have always been close to my heart. Last three days, gave me an opportunity to connect with 9 people for an hour each. The conversations made me realise that, there is something in us that distance us from being SELF AWARE. I resorted to researching about many people post that and realised that there is a need to find ways to be more aware about our eco system and give ourselves a stimulation to be on our journey to achieve things that we decide for ourselves.

It’s awareness of  habits, emotional tendencies, needs, desires, strengths, and weaknesses.

Having a high level of self-awareness is a powerful tool. It allows you to change your life more effectively, since you know how you tick. Those that lack self-awareness find life to be frustrating.

Develop your self-awareness:

1. Notice your thoughts. Unless you’ve been meditating for years, your mind is constantly churning through ideas and endlessly providing commentary. You can’t just look at a tree and admire it, your mind has to comment, “That’s a beautiful tree.” Then it’s off to the races.

  • Notice your thinking patterns. What are you thinking when you’re feeling nervous? Bored? Interested? Walking down the street? Notice that similar situations result in similar thought patterns.
  • Do you judge people and situations? Do you spend a lot of time thinking about the past or the future? Do you expect the worst to happen or the best? Or do you adopt an attitude of, “Let’s just see what happens”?

2. Notice your feelings. What are you feeling throughout the day? What do you feel while you’re eating? Driving to work? Lying in bed? Waiting in line?

  • Once you’ve notice your emotion, question it. What am I feeling? Why? What do I need right now? How do I normally react in this situation? Is that smart?

3. Understand how you deal with frustration or emotional discomfort.

A huge chunk of your time is spent trying to make yourself feel better.

If you feel slightly frustrated or uncomfortable, then you may spend a tremendous amount of time and energy trying to change the situation or the others around you to resolve those negative feelings.

  • Do you try to control others? Do you attempt to distract yourself? Is your first instinct to leave the situation? Do you surf the internet or eat a big bowl of ice cream?

4. Examine your friendships. Where do you find your friends? Are most of your friendships long-term or short? When your friendships end, what is the common cause? What types of people do you prefer to be friends with? What types of people do you avoid?

5. Examine your intimate relationships. Do you see a pattern in the type of people that you’ve been involved with? What are the negative characteristics they all share? Why do you think those people appealed to you?

  • What were your shortcomings in your relationships? Are you clingy? Jealous? Too focused on work? Failed to communicate your needs? Think about how you contributed to the failure of your relationships.
  • Have you changed your approach from relationship to relationship, or do you continue to repeat your mistakes?

6. Keep a journal. There’s no better way to learn about yourself than to record your thoughts, feelings, and experiences each day.

Studies have shown that we don’t remember our past very accurately, so record it while it’s still fresh in your mind.

Be sure to include your high and low points for the day.

  • Note how well you ate and slept, too. You might find some useful information.
  • Create a habit of writing in your journal for at least 15 minutes each day. You’ll start to notice patterns and learn a lot about yourself.

7. Write your own manifesto. Think about and then document your views on life, your goals, and your intentions. You might be surprised by what you write. This is a great first step for understanding yourself and your beliefs.

8. Make a list of your strengths and weaknesses.
How do you know? Are you certain? Avoid jumping to conclusions. You may have always believed that you’re a hard worker, but are you? To whom are you comparing yourself? Provide yourself with proof before you make any decisions.

9. What would others say about you? Consider how your partner, children, friends, family, co-workers, and boss would describe you. What would they suggest you improve about yourself? Then ask them and see how accurate you are. Do you know how others perceive you? Find out how perceptive you are.

10. Meditate. Meditation is all about developing a better awareness of the present moment and yourself. Meditation is an ideal activity for enhancing self-awareness.

  • Meditate at least once each day. Spend the rest of the day paying attention to yourself, others, and your surroundings. You can develop a higher degree of self-awareness by just paying attention.
  • Question yourself throughout the day. “What am I attempting to achieve?” “What emotions am I currently feeling and why?” “What are the people around me feeling?”

Understanding yourself might be the most important part of becoming and living authentically.

Here’s what you need to do :

Spend a few days noticing your feelings. Do you see patterns emerging in similar situations?

The answers are for you to reflect on and act upon.

Schools Vs Learners

Learning is active. It involves reaching out of the mind. It involves organic assimilation starting from within. It is a child and not the subject-matter which determines both quality and quantity of learning.

                                                                                                                                         —John Dewey

Schools are caught up with structuring assignments and exercises for youngsters nowadays, with incredible thoroughness. In any case, do we even idea on what sort of exercises would we say we are planning for kids? One side we talk about pushing instruction framework away from the study classrooms and on the opposite side we are losing on this open door when youngsters are in reality away from the schools and their study rooms. Customary messages from schools to guardians, schools demanding youngsters to get up promptly toward the beginning of the day and be available online(and not look lethargic) and envision that too wearing school uniform(a not many of them), educators needing kids to be on the web and react to the inquiries that they have for them, saying great morning every day, this is the shape that has been given to the VIRTUAL SCHOOLS.

Youngsters barely have such chances to be at home when the entire family is near. What’s more, anybody can ask for, learning starts on autopilot here in such an ecosystem. Their portrayal framework is so dynamic as there is a great deal of common incitement their way. There are individuals around them to converse with them, to draw in with them in the most creative way. Why not we (schools/instructors) simply assume our job to open the guardians to the manners in which they can facilitate kids at home. It’s for the most part about drilling down those key focuses that guardians at home can fare thee well and make this period the time of building compatibility and learning together. Indeed, innovation can be a piece of this period of quarantine yet not in the manner it is continued. Jumping on to Zoom calls with youngsters and expecting them to be present there and follow guidelines drove methodology of learning is nothing less than Coercion.

Technology is nothing. What’s important is that you have a faith in people, that they are basically good and smart, and if you give them tools, they will do wonderful things with them.

                                                                                                                           —–Steve Jobs

The concern is, are individuals who are in the field of education truly trust commendable??? (especially when it comes to virtual classrooms)

Do they know what innovation-driven learning is?

I need to impart to all of you that I am vigorously affected by the thoughts of JEAN PIAGET, the notable twentieth-century Swiss Psychologist. Piaget had faith in a constructivist perspective on scholarly improvement, in which kids fabricate their insight over time through play and experimentation and the communication of new thoughts with existing mental him, Education is a process.

In light of it and on my own experience being with youngsters for over 2 decades now, I accept Children appear to be intrinsically talented students, securing some time before they go to class a tremendous amount of information by a procedure I call “Piagetian Learning” or “learning without being educated”(Schema).  Presently what is most significant is to analyze what are the resources that ought to be caused accessible for youngsters so they can learn without being educated, progressively like the manner in which a kid figures out how to talk, a procedure that happens without purposeful and sorted out instruction.

The path towards it is to ask youngsters, what is that they need to realize, when, how and from whom?  How is that they want to work? Also, Where is that they can apply what they are self-learning? 

This is something that resembles a fantasy if kids are in traditional school settings. Yet, today kids are HOME. They can be liberated to think about their direction.

Truly, innovation is the best approach yet WHAT is it that is going to lead them to self-coordinated learning is to be analyzed and this is the job we have to play as teachers or in this case as parents, in today’s situation.

My proposals to Educators are: how about we be flighty in any event NOW for quite a while, as we can stand to do it.

1.       Let them plan their week and send it back to you. (you can give them a rundown of things they can browse)

2.       Why morning? Why not at night we can associate with youngsters? They love to do various things to feel in an unexpected way. (let them rest toward the beginning of the day)

3.       Give them their cutoff times. You can associate with them again once you arrive at that cutoff time date.

4.       Why books once more? Let them have intriguing inquiries and as teachers, your job is to plan those incredible questions around which kids get ready for marriage. (completely engaged)

5.       Empower them with all the applications and delicate products accessible online that can assist them with building their learning.

6.       For early childhood learners, this is the most wonderful time of FREE PLAY and they are learning as time passes. So why an educational plan for them. Train their parents to reveal to them STORIES and connect with them at home all day by day life tasks(especially the KITCHEN area). Learning will be at its best.

Believe this period as an OPPORTUNITY to BE diverse to have the option to FEEL unique.


1.     It’s not important to correct the Child always.

2.     Too much intervention in the child’s learning takes away the chance of discovery from the child.

3.     There is no point expecting children to think like you or better than you.

4.     Play can be treated as a mental and cognitive concept.

5.     Intelligence is what you use when you don’t know what to do.

6.     Let children unsettle as this is how they will be curious.

7.     Be prepared in advance for activity as it’s not fair to intervene when children are on it.

8.     Wear lenses of different perspectives before being Judgementle about a child’s capabilities.

9.     Let children take time to accomplish a task as in their head they experience and explore a lot before they arrive at an outcome.

10. Don’t just teach them, convert their interest into an educative experience.

Can We See OPPORTUNITIES In This Era Of Crisis?

It is quite mind-stressing for me to see the level of fear and uncertainty that we all are currently experiencing. It’s good to talk about resourceful things but to a large extent  it’s not evident in people today, people’s faces; their voice while talking, their non-stop care that they are showcasing while being at home, for their family all are showing a SCARE.

This SCARE  is not only originating from facing a crisis in work, economy, and our homes but it is also because now we are SCARED OF EACH OTHER. This is very natural though; but not the only way to live.

This situation reminds me of a child who keeps trying to skate even after falling a thousand times while learning to skate. Without being scared child sets on to learning the skill, each day. This could be because he believes in himself. He has FAITH in him.

Likewise, today we all are in that uncomfortable state. In isolation, trying to save ourselves; Let’s not lose FAITH. Any situation that occurs doesn’t last forever. There is always light at the end of the tunnel. The only thing that I feel we can focus on, is to find that light- Do we see some opportunities in this era of crisis?

I strongly believe that success comes to them who are always prepared and planned.  Why not take this time as an opportunity to be planned and prepared for our future.  If you sit back and think on these lines-you will find a very strong unconscious part of you,  who  knows what’s right and what is supposed to be done at this point in time.

My request is to count on that part of you, which is capable, which is full of information and experience. Take all the suggestions from it, and work on areas, that you never got an opportunity to spend time on. Maybe:

-your relationships

-your own health

– your dreams

-your future plans

-your strategies and so on.

  Help your family overcome this fear and breakthrough this moment of discomfort.

Worries are like those emotional messages that our mind sends us, because it is trying to work out for us. Acknowledging receipt of these messages are often all you need to do to make them go away, for you will pick your mind into believing that you have taken action.

I have a small exercise to share with you-

1.       Make a box-any box and name it “worry box”.

2.       Each time you feel worried, get a paper and pen down your worry.

3.       Also, write what might be making you feel like this. And then fold the paper and drop it in the box.

4.       This way, your unconscious mind (a part of you) will receive a message of being heard and the action taken.

5.       Each time you do this and you will find the worries cease to keep nagging you.

6.       At the end of the week, open the box and read, but, you will find most of the worries are taken care off without requiring any action from you whatsoever.


What is AGENCY?

A couple of years ago, I heard someone talking about educational reform. This person talked about a goal, to which he named “Agency”. Now this word struck a chord.

In a way, we all indulged in multiple things in order to let our children have this AGENCY. To be able to elaborate on it or define it is not really easy, but I think it means the self-confidence and competence it takes to collaborate with the world. Also its about trusting on your own independence. A free agent-and agency, to some extent, concentrates on its definition as someone whose deeds are not restricted or constrained by others.

Sadly, the excessive, the instructional intervention is in schools, the much less agency, in fact, students are in a position to develop. They are extra likely to become sheep than free agents, unless by some great chance they deny believing; that schools are performing in their exceptional and best interests.

More often, I witness the parents, quite busy figuring out, and being extravagant towards the program that they feel can develop those traits of AGENCY. But the question is what happens when they actually see children exhibiting agency?

Strong denial is seen. Adults progress, as one of their goals, a desire to change the child’s life, a desire to change the world. This has been trumpeted as a goal for hundreds of years. This presupposes that there is no real human problem that won’t be solved-in the generation to come -if children spend enough time being conformists and follow the schools and adults around them.

Parents, schools, should aim at, NOT having a desire to change the world, but on being prepared for the future. Should be able to encourage AGENCY. Should be able to rely on the natural genius of children to navigate the world of ideas. The culture should be such where children can discuss, play with, think about, and consider ideas.

To me, any kind of effort to change the world is political because it presumes a particular way in which the world should be changed. This is not what is paving towards empowerment. From the point of view of a child, there are problems. Children feel if adults get this in their heads that, we may not naturally follow their expected prescriptions, they will take actions to cajole or threaten us to be different. This is at the heart of the coercive model that pervades the education system. This is done because from ages it is believed that changing the world is more important than treating children humanely or respecting them as independent persons.

The need for the time is to start treating children as individuals who can have the freedom to say, do, think, in their own way. This is how creativity will breathe, innovations will fly in the air, Decisiveness will be their natural trait.

Humans Learn Naturally

Children come into our world with the desire to learn and are genetically programmed with explicit capacities for learning. They are tiny learning machines. Within their initial four years they absorb a huge amount of information and skills without any formal instruction. After four years their enormous desire and capacity to learn rather turns off, with our coercive system of schooling.

I observed the ways in which my young preschoolers mastered new skills. I also realized how different their time tables were. A few of them, rolled earlier and sat up later. Some don’t even crawl and they just walk. Information given to me through their parents had vast differences and I had always appreciated these differences in human development and wondered why we expect certain things at certain time, in certain ways from children. Their natural development is incredibly distinct. How control an age-segregated, one size fits all system of mass schooling possibly appreciate and accommodate the vast diversity of the human experiences? Schooling has become more standardized and test-driven as compared to the one we had. Pressure on children is increased , more parents are questioning this approach of education. They are seeing the striking correlation between decreasing childhood free play and increasing mental health disorders in children.

These parents may see how their childrens’ creativity has waned and their enthusiasm for learning has dwindled, replaced by extrinsic motivation and a determination to simply make it through the day without bullying or condescension (LEARNING FOR THE SAKE OF LEARNING DISSAPPEARS).

Imagine a system where creativity and ingenuity will be our key cultural and economic drives. Educators and  even parents should know that learning anything is most effective , most fulfilling, when it is self-directed, when the freedom to learn is provided , when the resources are available , when time and space for learning are offered , and when knowledgeable and supportive facilitators are available to help if needed.

Forced schooling might not help children in the years to come . Mass schooling , to some extent, ignores the cultural and economic realities of a new human era. Instead of robots, we need inventive thinkers, curious seekers and passionate doers. Inventiveness, curiosity and passion are all characteristics that young children naturally exude. We don’t need to train them for the jobs of the future. We desperately need to ensure a new paradigm of education.

We need to let go of the notion –something someone does to someone else-and instead reclaim learning-something humans naturally do in order to preserve a good planet in a new age of innovation ,information and imagination.

What’s different with juvenile’s ?

I wondered what these kids did. I looked at each one, trying to guess his crime. “Maybe he robbed a store, maybe he killed somebody, maybe he was selling drugs.” Some people might ask, why would I want to write a story about juveniles in prison? Why would anyone want to read what these criminals have to say? Who cares? It’s easy to judge juvenile criminals as bad kids, but not so easy when you’re looking into the eyes of a teenager who is going to spend life in jail.

“I saw children who were charged as adults, they were just a little older than primary class children, and it ruined their lives,” Amar (juvenile’s name changed) said , “When you’re 13 and you don’t know when you will be out, it sets you up to be a criminal. Nobody is going to want to hire you. You’re going to be forced back to a life of crime.” After I got released from there, I was still on probation. I then started smoking pot, drinking, fighting, and skipping school. So I continuously and gradually got into more trouble.

I know there are victims of violent crimes whose voices go unheard. But recognize that some people who commit crimes have many reasons behind their actions. It’s a CYCLE. This is what happens to kids who didn’t have direction or anybody who cared, who had to learn about life the hard way. They were brought up this way so that’s how they’re going to treat others. Sometimes, it’s okay to give a voice to the “villains.” They have been victims too.

I could see most of them were from a broken home because of which they were hurt and and lost, and felt alone. They were angry/hurt at their family, for how they were treated and being around things and seeing things that a child shouldn’t have to see. They just needed to talk about everything that hurt them in their life and get it off their chest. They never wanted to let those feeling of hurt build up anymore and allow them to turn into anger.

The journey of diagnosing their MAP started here. One on one I met them all and felt, that the most potential resource on the planet is wasted.
The need is not only to guide them but to help them empty their cup. Their past experiences, their eco system, the information that they bare in their head, their perceptions, all needed a revamp.

They were hardly helped with their social skills and coping skills. How to deal with struggles that life throws or how to respond to a certain situation are like, not known subjects for them. To me their world is full of unresourceful sensory experiences. But the beauty is in finding their preferred representation system so that a needful change can be brought.

This is not only with them but with any human. Sometimes people are biased towards one sensory system, known as the preferred representational system or PRS. Phrases such as “I see your point” may signal a visual PRS. Or “I hear your point” may signal an auditory PRS. So we can detect this preference through language. And consciously use language to bring about a change in people’s thoughts and behaviours.
My journey is on, and I have been trying to design the framework that involves rapport-building, information-gathering, and goal-setting with them. I am sure this is going to be a breakthrough for them and for me as well.


Complaints about our children are usually a reflection of our own limitations

Every so often, I hear complaints from parents about their children’s behaviour. I, too, have not been immune to complaining about my children. But what I have come to realize is that this complaining on our part is not so much an issue of our children’s behaviour or mental state, rather it’s an issue of our limitations.

Parents often deliberate over how their children are impatient, discussing how they refuse to wait for anything that doesn’t serve their own purpose and happiness. However, this makes me think about how we don’t teach them to be patient. How we, ourselves, sometimes have been impatient with our children and fail to realize that they’ve learned to be impatient from us. Do we constantly demand that they follow our instructions as we tell them to? Do we demand that they should do what we say immediately?

By coaching parents and helping them understand, by asking the right question, we can help create a roadmap towards creating a shift in the parents’ behaviour and subsequently create a shift in the children’s life and behaviour too. 

As parents, teachers and caregivers, we hold positions that highly influence a child’s development. Therefore, it’s important for us to understand and determine the channels through which children receive information that designs their behaviour or that which leads to behavioural change. This information can help ascertain why children behave the way they do and how we can help aid their growth and development.

If a child’s internal representation system is diagnosed, it can become a wonderful tool for empowering educators and parents to present their language in a way that helps them reach the child effectively. By understanding how children perceive the world, we can aid the development of a rapport that helps with the creation and innovation of a child’s life and also the life of the people around that child.

However, this process is best started at an early age. The early years of a child are the formative years and they are critical in shaping the child’s development. That being said, there are ample case studies that validate how an ecosystem designed by an adult impacts the child’s neurology. 

To get a better reference on how children behave and what we, as adults, do to influence their behaviour, we can think about how we behaved when we were young children. By understanding what we did and why we did it, we can paint a clearer picture about why our children behave the way they do, while considering our impact on their behaviour. Children learn from their parents, but parents aren’t always aware of what they are teaching their kids. It’s not just our words, our actions and behaviours can be learned as well.

So, the next time you think about how your child is behaving badly, try considering why that is and what you could have done to cause it. We need to be better role models for our children. At House of Learning, we help parents see the bigger picture of their child’s development. To take a look at everything that influences your child’s development, get in touch with us.